Normal Things I Wish Guys Didn’t Take as a Mixed Signal

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My rulebook for wanting to stay single:

  • I keep a 3 -feet cushion space between me and him.
  • I avoid using wink emojis through text.
  • I deflect every flirty compliment or move he throws at me by shrugging it off.
  • I even tell him, “Sorry I’m not interested in dating. I’d rather focus on work.”

I mean, how much clearer can I be?!? There are 4 rules I follow, but the last one is really the only one needed. Maybe I need to keep 6 feet between me and him, it’s double the space and it keeps to the rules of social distancing.

But then I realized, it wasn’t his fault for making the wrong move and jeopardizing what could have been a great relationship. It was me. Maybe it’s time I reevaluate the way I act around guys.

For the longest of times, I’d been giving guys mixed signals without realizing it. Maybe I’d been too sheltered during my 9 1/2-year relationship and never exposed myself to dating.

Or maybe my bubbly personality naturally invited men to flirt with me. I do tend to forget to be quiet and reserved around new people I meet, but rather act like I’ve known them for years.

Either way, I had to revisit the old-fashioned “dating rules,” which by the way…sucks! Because most of them are deeply ingrained in my personality and habits. It’s hard because, in reality, I’m just being nice and treating them like I would treat any of my friends.

1. Eating dinner together.

2. Instantly replying to his text.

3. Using emojis to express my mood.

4. Smiling while talking.

5. Giving lots of compliments (on his achievements, skills, dress style)

6. Asking for his number.

7. Wearing slightly more makeup than average.

8. Making eye contact for more than 3 seconds.

9. Mimicking his gestures, accidentally.

10. Leaning forward on the table while talking.

11. Wearing any shoe higher than an inch.

12. Asking one question too much.

13. Putting on perfume.

14. Wearing skirts or dresses of any length or style.

15. Being too nice.

16. Being too worried.

17. Getting a quick coffee or tea.

18. Asking for his honest opinion or advice about an important matter.

19. Sharing my past, and explaining why I’m doing the things I’m doing now.

20. Inviting him to a game of pool, mini-golf, arcades, bowling, a hike, any small leisure activity.

21. Dressing up as if I’m about to head to a house party.

22. Being open about how I feel.

So, guys, please don’t take my actions to a serious level yet. I may be open with my mind, but if my reaction tells you otherwise, it’s better we stay friends.

Article by Tiffany Sun for Your Tango©

Source: 22 Normal Things I Wish Guys Didn’t Take As A Mixed Signal | YourTango

Author: Dennis Hickey

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