Top 5 Reasons Why You’re Single —​ And Will Remain That Way

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If you’re wondering why you’re single, you might want to take a look at the reasons below.

Then, you can use them to stop doubting yourself and start searching for a stable relationship.

1. You’re too much of a perfectionist.

Sometimes, people are too perfectionistic when they are looking for a mate. They reject anyone who has even a small flaw or who doesn’t perfectly match their list of what they are looking for in a future spouse.

This single person needs to realize that nobody is perfect, and we rarely find anyone who meets all of our requirements. 

They just need to try out different types of people with a more open mind. This person might also benefit from some self-analysis and reflection to learn what his or her imperfections are.

2. You have low self-esteem.

This kind of perpetually single person does not feel good about him/herself and therefore won’t open him/herself up to the kind of soulful sharing that is necessary for a spouse. This person needs therapy to learn how to feel good about him/herself and to figure out how to trust their own feelings.

Until this person even likes him or herself, there is no way that they are going to find someone to love them or to trust that they can fully love the other.

3. You’re afraid of what commitment will mean.

They enjoy dating and enjoy the almost endless variety of people they can meet.

Deep down, they are probably afraid of giving up the next good person that they might meet. Even when they find someone who might make a fantastic mate, they may think, “But what about the next person I meet?”

This forever-single needs to learn that there probably is not one perfect true love for anyone; that each of us probably has multiple great spouses out there. We just need to find one of them and commit to receiving the almost unending benefits that a good marriage can bring you.

4. You think changing yourself will help you fit in.

This method simply doesn’t have merit and is one of the top reasons why you’re single. There is no way that a person who is completely faking it to seem like they are just like their potential mate can keep up that charade.

And, even if they manage to for long enough to become engaged or even married, it is highly unlikely that this will form the basis for a long, satisfying marriage. Instead, this fake persona will likely lead to a relatively rapid divorce.

5. You’re simply too uninteresting.

They don’t have hobbies. They don’t have interests. They don’t have things about which they feel passionate. Oddly enough, of the five different types discussed here, this is the easiest to fix. Get out! Enjoy life. Try different things.

Find something you love doing. Odds are, while you are doing that thing you now love, you will find someone else also doing the same thing, and soon, maybe you can begin loving doing that thing together.

David J. Glass is a former therapist and now a family law attorney. He has been a frequent guest on various radio programs including KABC in L.A. and Starcom Radio.

This article originally appeared on YourTango

20 red flags that signal you’re in a toxic relationship

Every relationship has its ups and downs. Sure, there will be blissful times when your only care in the world is what to cook for dinner. And, of course, there will be times of huge difficulty when you wonder if it’s all worthwhile. However, if the two of you experience far more lows than highs, you may be caught in the trap of a toxic relationship. If that scenario sounds all too familiar, here are 20 expert-backed red flags to look out for.

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Your partner keeps tabs on you

“If your partner is wanting to know where you are all the time, there’s something not right there,” says couples therapist Geoff Lamb, co-founder of the UK Centre for Psychosexual Therapy and a member of the College of Sexual and Relationship Therapists (COSRT). If you feel like you always have to explain yourself, that’s a red flag.

You’re always excusing their behaviour

Do you find yourself making excuses for your partner’s toxic behaviour when they’re not around? “For example, ‘He’s got a bit of a temper, but I can help him with that,’” explains Lamb. “When you’re making statements like that where people around you are saying that they aren’t really good for you, it’s a danger sign to look out for.”

You can’t be your authentic self

Are you authentic around your partner? “For both partners in a relationship, you should be able to be you—whatever that means to you,” says Lamb. “If you’re feeling like you’re treading on eggshells all the time, that could be a red flag. You don’t have an obligation to be who your partner wants you to be.”

To view all 20 red flags, click the link below.

Article by Charlotte Grainger for Expresso Communiocation

Source: 20 red flags that signal you’re in a toxic relationship (msn.com)

Love Horoscope 2021

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‘When will I find my soulmate?’

Whether you’re single or in a relationship, we’ve got you covered in 2021 and are ready to reveal what awaits your zodiac sign in the love department! Astrologer Susan Taylor reveals everything you need to know and whether you should start stocking up on Kleenexes!

Could 2021 be THE year? Check out this compatibility chart on where to begin.

Zodiac signs: Single love horoscope:Love relationship horoscope:Compatibility:
 Aries ♈❤❤❤❤ 80%❤❤❤ 60%Aries + Sagittarius
Taurus ♉❤❤❤❤ 80%❤❤❤❤ 75%Taurus + Cancer
Gemini ♊❤❤ 35%❤❤❤❤ 75%Gemini + Pisces
Cancer ♋❤❤❤❤ 76%❤❤ 25%Cancer + Taurus
Leo ♌❤❤❤❤ 70%❤❤❤❤ 69%Leo + Virgo
Virgo ♍❤❤❤ 60%❤❤❤ 55%Virgo + Leo
Libra ♎❤ 10%❤❤❤❤ 80%Libra + Aquarius
Scorpio ♏❤❤ 55%❤❤ 25%Scorpio + Capricorn
Sagittarius ♐❤❤❤ 55%❤❤❤❤ 75%Sagittarius + Aries
Capricorn ♑❤❤❤ 65%❤❤ 25%Capricorn + Scorpio
Aquarius ♒❤❤❤❤ 79%❤❤❤❤ 75%Aquarius + Libra
Pisces ♓❤❤❤❤ 75%❤❤ 35%Pisces + Gemini

Source: Love Horoscope 2021: When Will I Find Love? (msn.com)

Do This After Watching TV

Doing This After Watching TV Slashes Your Risk of Divorce, Study Says

One of the primary problems that destroys romantic relationships is poor communication—specifically on the subject of the relationship itself. When you and your partner avoid sharing your feelings and concerns about your relationship, it’s nearly impossible to find solutions that will bring you closer together and form a stronger connection where both parties’ needs are being met. And while this type of open, often vulnerable, communication can be difficult, there are ways to make it less intimidating. In fact, there’s one very easy way to lower your risk of divorce, according to an Oct. 2020 meta-analysis published in Journal of Contextual Behavioral Sciencewatch TV shows and movies featuring couples and talk about them.

For a 2013 study, psychologists looked at 174 couples to see how effective certain activities were at improving their relationships. The researchers divided the couples into four groups, assigning each group to either complete the highly regarded premarital relationship enhancement program (PREP); attend workshops offered by CARE, a program designed to build empathy and compassion; watch movies and discuss the onscreen relationships depicted; or do none of the above. Read on to see how the couples in each group responded.

Slide 1 of 5: One of the primary problems that destroys romantic relationships is poor communication—specifically on the subject of the relationship itself. When you and your partner avoid sharing your feelings and concerns about your relationship, it's nearly impossible to find solutions that will bring you closer together and form a stronger connection where both parties' needs are being met. And while this type of open, often vulnerable, communication can be difficult, there are ways to make it less intimidating. In fact, there's one very easy way to lower your risk of divorce, according to an Oct. 2020 meta-analysis published in Journal of Contextual Behavioral Science: watch TV shows and movies featuring couples and talk about them.For a 2013 study, psychologists looked at 174 couples to see how effective certain activities were at improving their relationships. The researchers divided the couples into four groups, assigning each group to either complete the highly regarded premarital relationship enhancement program (PREP); attend workshops offered by CARE, a program designed to build empathy and compassion; watch movies and discuss the onscreen relationships depicted; or do none of the above. Read on to see how the couples in each group responded. And for more factors that ruin a relationship, check out This Is the Age When Married Men Are Most Likely to Cheat.Read the original article on Best Life.

1. Watching and discussing movies that feature a romantic relationship lowered divorce rates.

According to the study’s findings, the couples who weren’t assigned to the workshops or movie-discussion exercise had a divorce or separation rate of 24 percent in the first three years of marriage. For those in the CARE, PREP, and movie-watching groups, the divorce rate was around 12 percent, a 50 percent decrease from the group that did nothing to improve their bond. That means that watching a few movies with your partner and then talking about them is just as effective at lowering your risk of divorce as attending time-consuming relationship workshops.

“Instead of doing these 14-hour workshops where they have to come to campus, [couples can improve their relationship by] just watching three movies at home and having discussions about their relationship that they ease into by talking about the relationship on screen first,” study co-author Ron Rogge, PhD, an assistant professor of clinical psychology at University of Rochester, said in a statement.

2. Dramas are the most effective genre.

The only necessary criteria for the films you choose for the exercise is that they prominently feature a romantic, ideally long-term, relationship, Rogge told People. However, Rogge says that dramas seem to be more effective than romantic comedies because in the latter, the characters typically don’t become a couple until the end. Some films used in the original 2013 study included True Lies, Mr. and Mrs. Smith, and American Beauty.

3. And TV shows can serve as a similar form of couples therapy.

While the initial research focused solely on movies, Rogge says television shows are a perfectly acceptable alternative for busy couples with little free time to invest in a full-length feature. The important thing is the discussion that is sparked by whatever it is you and your partner choose to watch. 

4. The exercise also improved the relationships of unmarried couples.

Follow up research conducted in 2016 found that the positive impact of these discussions surrounding onscreen romantic relationships wasn’t limited to married couples, either. The exercise had a similar effect on unmarried couples at various relationship stages, the research analysis said.

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The No. 1 Thing Women Really Want in a Partner, According to Science

Slide 1 of 5: If you're single you already know: it's rough out there in today's dating market. For one thing, dating apps provide an endless stream of potential partners to choose from, which research shows only makes the selection and matching process harder. On top of this, you're contending with more timeless dating woes including questionable chemistry, mysterious motives, and baggage on both sides. Given that many men also report feeling generally mystified by what women want in a partner, it's a wonder anyone gets together in the end.Thankfully, a new study has shed some light on the question of what women want, and demystifying it may just help some people couple up. The study, published in Science Advances analyzed data from online dating exchanges and determined that in the hierarchy of desirable qualities, being highly educated was considered the most attractive quality in men."Desirability is associated with education most strongly for men, for whom more education is always more desirable," the researchers explained. Those with higher degrees had higher message rates from online daters, and tended to interact more with women who were themselves considered "highly desirable."As one article in The New York Times corroborates, marriage rates have been on the decline among men without college degrees. "For men without higher education, dwindling prospects in the labor market have made a growing percentage either unwilling to marry or unable to find someone to marry them," the authors wrote. They suggested that as women themselves attain higher levels of education, they're more interested in "a mate with more education and hence better financial prospects."That said, if you don't happen to hold a degree, don't despair: there are several more subjective qualities which women tend to rank as highly important in a potential partner, but are less likely to be included in this type of ranking. This means you may very well attract a partner with your wit, charm, or warmth—especially IRL, where she can get to know the person behind the profile. Read on for more qualities that women find most attractive, and for more on dating, check out You're Most Attractive to This Type of Person.
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If you’re single you already know: it’s rough out there in today’s dating market. For one thing, dating apps provide an endless stream of potential partners to choose from, which research shows only makes the selection and matching process harder. On top of this, you’re contending with more timeless dating woes including questionable chemistry, mysterious motives, and baggage on both sides. Given that many men also report feeling generally mystified by what women want in a partner, it’s a wonder anyone gets together in the end.

Thankfully, a new study has shed some light on the question of what women want, and demystifying it may just help some people couple up. The study, published in Science Advances analyzed data from online dating exchanges and determined that in the hierarchy of desirable qualities, being highly educated was considered the most attractive quality in men.

“Desirability is associated with education most strongly for men, for whom more education is always more desirable,” the researchers explained. Those with higher degrees had higher message rates from online daters, and tended to interact more with women who were themselves considered “highly desirable.”

That said, if you don’t happen to hold a degree, don’t despair: there are several more subjective qualities which women tend to rank as highly important in a potential partner, but are less likely to be included in this type of ranking. This means you may very well attract a partner with your wit, charm, or warmth—especially IRL, where she can get to know the person behind the profile.

1. Kindness

If there’s one thing research shows women really want in a partner, it’s kindness. In fact, one international survey that polled over 14,000 people across 45 countries found that this was considered the single most important quality in a potential mate.

2. Intelligence

Intelligence and education are often intertwined, but they’re not the same thing—and research shows that many women value intelligence in a man regardless of whether there’s a degree to confer it. There are plenty of bright and curious people without top tier degrees, so be sure to share your other passions and accomplishments with pride.

3. Generosity

You can’t exactly put your generosity in your online dating profile, but if you demonstrate this desirable quality in person, research shows that women will notice. An August study from Indiana University found that this tends to create a “halo effect” that increases a man’s overall attractiveness. 

4. Confidence

While cockiness is likely to ultimately put women off, demonstrating confidence helps others buy in and see you through a rosier lens. Show off your best qualities while also taking ownership for your quirks or shortcomings—or in other words, just be yourself. Do that, and your odds of finding the right fit should multiply.

Article by Lauren Gray

Source: https://www.msn.com/en-us/lifestyle/career/the-no-1-thing-women-really-want-in-a-partner-according-to-science/ss-BB1azqK5?ocid=msedgntp#image=5