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Becoming a Champion

 

THE 10 CHARACTERISTICS OF A CHAMPION

1. VISION

All champions have a bigger picture vision for what they want to create. It might be winning an Olympic gold, claiming the world cup trophy or setting a new world record.

No matter what the vision is, all champions have something bigger that they are working towards. Because the bottom line is:

“If you don’t know where you are going, you’re never going to get there.”

Now I know some of you are freaking out about needing to have the rest of your life planned, but the vision will change over time, so don’t panic. What’s important is that you have something you are working towards.

So start asking yourself what it is that YOU want to create. And then start taking small steps to make it happen.

Then the question becomes “How?”. That leads us to number 2.

2. GOALS

Once they have a vision, champions turn that vision into achievable goals. There seems to be a common misperception about goals, whereby people think that if they miss them, they’ve failed.

But I want you to think of goals as milestones/landmarks to assess your progress towards your vision.

The other important thing about goals is that it’s not so much about the goal itself, but WHO that goal forces you to become in order to achieve it. Small but important distinction.

3. FOCUS ON THE PROCESS/PRESENCE

Once they’ve set goals, champions focus on the process. All of us have to go home tonight from wherever it is we are, but the headlights on out car don’t need to be able to shine all the way to our front door. We simply need to see far enough in front of us in order to make the next move.

So what’s the next TINY step you can take towards your goals? If you’re feeling stuck, overwhelmed or intimidated, your next step is too big and you need to go smaller.

Another reason focusing on the process is so important is that if you’re always just thinking about your long-term vision and goals, you’re going to miss out on the amazing opportunities you could never have imagined that already right in front of you.

This is how the vision changes; we work towards one thing, but are open to new possibilities as they emerge.

4. HABITS & RITUALS

I’m sure you’ve seen Rafael Nadal about to serve or Dan Biggar about to kick for goal. They have these somewhat comical routines before every shot.

But they’re not doing these things to make people laugh. In fact, they wouldn’t even be able to hear people laughing at all. This is because champions adopt habits and rituals to get themselves in flow/the zone.

Because when we create habits, the most important actions for achieving our goals become automatic.

Rituals

The two most important rituals for anyone to adopt are a morning ritual and an evening ritual.

During the day, things are going to get chaotic, people are going to demand our attention, and things won’t go as planned. Try to bookend your days with the first and last two hours of the day.  Use that time with things that set you up for success, you’ll be far ahead of everyone else. (P.S. checking email and social media don’t count).

5. HEALTH

Learn how to take care of your health.

The three most important areas are eating, moving and sleeping.

Eating: stick to things that came out the ground or had an animal, not things that came out a box or bag.

Moving: shift from thinking about exercise as 1 or 2 hours in the gym per day followed by sitting, to thinking of exercise as continual movement throughout the day (and no, you don’t need to workout every day of the week).

Sleeping: sleep is the most underestimated, neglected and important area of health. Sleep is a crucial time where your body heals itself and makes new connections in your brain.

6. PASSION/PURPOSE

All these things are great, but if you can connect your vision to a bigger purpose, you will go further.

The most common question I get nowadays is “How do I find my passion?”

But as Tom Asacker shared in our interview together, you don’t find your passion. Because your passion isn’t out there, it’s in here (pointing to my heart/chest).

What he means is that you can sit and try “figure out” your passion all you want, but you only discover it by DOING things; by experimenting with things you’re interested in.

And when you can find the intersection of what you’re interested in, what you’re good at and what others need, THAT’S when you’ve found your sweet spot.

So, my advice is to get really good at something and then use that skill to create the lifestyle you desire (and it doesn’t take as long as you think).

Speaking of getting good at something…

7. FOCUS ON YOUR STRENGTHS

All champions focus on their strengths. Usain Bolt (one of my favorite athletes) isn’t trying to be the best at every sport. He identified (probably at a young age) that he was really good at sprinting and then went all in on that one thing.

It reminds me of the Pareto Principle, or the 80/20 principle, which says that 20% of your efforts produce 80% of the results.

So, what’s your 20%? What 20% of the things you do make everything else easier or unnecessary? Find those things, and then go all in.

8. TAKE RISKS

When I quit my job back in 2014, I had no plan B. And I’d love to be able to say it was all smooth sailing, but the truth is there were a lot of challenges.

There were weeks I didn’t know how I would buy groceries and months I couldn’t pay rent. But it reminds me of one my favorite sayings: “ship is safe in harbor, but that’s not what ships are for”

“A ship is safe in harbor, but that’s not what ships are for”

All champions take risks and face setbacks, but what matters most is how long you can you stick with it. How far are you willing to go to make your goals and dreams a reality?

9. SUPPORT TEAM

Champions all have a strong team around them. This doesn’t mean they play a team sport, but they surround themselves with people who are going to move them forward.

There are three parts to this.

Find a mentor or coach

The first is a mentor or coach. This doesn’t need to be someone who’s done what you want to do, but simply someone who is able to guide you and bring out your greatness.

Because the thing is, no great champion ever got there on his own. Asking for help doesn’t mean you are weak or not good enough as you are. In fact, it’s much the opposite. It shows that you are serious about achieving your goals.

The next component of a team is your peers or environment. Jim Rohn said

“You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with.”

If you spend your time with people who just want to smoke, drink, party and go out every weekend, you’re going to be dragged down into that. But if you want to really achieve success, you need to spend time with people who inspire you to be better. Never be the smartest person in the room.

The final component of a winning team is also the 10th characteristic of a champion.

10. YOURSELF (BELIEF)

The final component of a team is a characteristic of its own, and that is YOU.

If you want to be a champion, need to have a deep inner KNOWING that it’s all going to work out. This won’t always be how we might have imagined, but you need to trust that there’s something even better waiting for you.

If you do all these things, together with a strong BELIEF, will become unstoppable. I truly believe that.

BRINGING IT ALL TOGETHER

But here’s the thing. These characteristics aren’t reserved for the likes of Usain Bolt, Lewis Hamilton or Roger Federer.

The truth is, you are all champions in your own right. We can all be champions of our own lives. You just need to decide if you are going to settle for good or if you’ll choose to be great; if you’re you happy being a competitor, or if will you rise and become a champion.

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Find your Passion

 

You’ve made lists. You’ve asked your friends for advice. You’ve tried journaling and you’ve analyzed every thought you’ve ever had. Yet, you’re still asking yourself, “what is my passion?”

That’s because passion comes from the heart, not the head. Chances are, you already know what your passion is. You just need to connect with it.

1. SHIFT YOUR PERSPECTIVE

For many, living a life of passion feels unrealistic. Because they feel this way, some people aren’t optimistic about changing. If you enter the journey to discover your passion with this mindset, you’re setting yourself up for failure. The only way to succeed in finding your passion for life is to shift your mindset to one of positivity and possibility. 

2. DISCOVER YOUR TOP HUMAN NEED

As human beings, we all have Six Human Needs: certainty, significance, variety, love/connection, growth and contribution. Life is a delicate balance between these, but we all have one top need that is most essential to our happiness. Discovering your driving force can give you a window into how to find your passion for life by showing you what you need most to feel fulfilled.

3. LOOK AT WHAT YOU LOVE

Look at your bookshelf, favorite movies or the last play you saw – is there a common theme? Think about your favorite summer job or the last time you got so caught up in a project, you completely lost track of time. Think about what you loved to do as a child – drawing, writing, dancing. So often, we give up our passions when we become adults because we think we have to grow into something we aren’t. This isn’t true. Tap into the activities and topics that used to fill you up when you were younger. 

4. NOTICE WHERE YOU SPEND YOUR FREE TIME

Your hobbies aren’t necessarily the same as your true passion, but they can provide a hint. If you spend a lot of your free time reading, your passion could involve writing, teaching or research – anything that feeds your mind the way reading does. If you enjoy fixing things around the house, your passion likely involves creating and building. If you enjoy dancing or exercising, you are probably drawn to movement and expression. Think deeper about your extracurriculars and you could uncover your passion.

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But what if I don’t have one single passion?”

This is a really good question!

Some people feel the call of creativity to become artists or writers. Others are simply born to become astronauts or librarians. But there isn’t always one solitary beacon of passion guiding our lives. 

In fact, if you’re like most people, you may have held a lot of jobs in your lifetime, and your professional CV might look very different than how you spend your down time. Perhaps you’re a CEO of an energy company who likes to oil paint in her spare time (financial/admin/technical/creative), or a lobbyist who enjoys running marathons (enterprising/people service/mechanical). 

Many Roads can Lead to a Passion

You don’t have to be driven by one singular, solitary purpose to be successful and happy in your work. You simply need to find a career path that feels right, and that you are good at. 

In recruitment, we call this job fit. One way we measure job fit is by looking at a person’s interests and how well they align with the requirements of a particular job. Strong interest matches show how motivated individuals will be to perform different tasks, and how much enjoyment they may find in a particular role.

Assess Yourself

 Assess six possible interests. Obviously, the list is not exhaustive, and because interests can be satisfied outside of work similar to the examples above, the interests list makes for a lower percentage of the overall job fit score and might lead to a passion of sorts. The list includes:

  • Mechanical: the enjoyment of building or repairing things and working with machinery or tools. Individuals with this interest enjoy being outdoors, using their hands, and/or breaking a sweat.
  • People Service: the enjoyment of collaboration, compromise, and helping others. A strong sense of empathy and support and a knack for bringing people together.
  • Technical: enjoyment of learning technical material, interpreting complex information, and solving abstract problems. Individuals with this interest may enjoy working with numbers, data, and computer programs.
  • Enterprising: the enjoyment of leadership, presenting ideas, and persuading others. Individuals with this interest may desire responsibility, and exercise initiative, ambition, and resourcefulness.
  • Creative: enjoyment of imaginative and artistic activities. It involves artistic expression, emphasis on aesthetics, and novel ways of solving problems, producing ideas, and designing new things.
  • Financial/Admin: enjoyment of working with numbers, organizing information, and office routines such as record keeping and completing paperwork. It can indicate an eye for detail and a desire for accuracy.

 Finding a job that leads to genuine passion or fulfillment starts first with understanding yourself. What do you think your personal top three interests are from the list above? Once this is understood you can begin thinking strategically about finding a role where work doesn’t feel like work. It feels more like a calling.

How To Achieve More with Less

Use The 80/20 Principle

The 80/20 is also known as “The Pareto Principle” or “The Law of the Vital Few” — referring to the vital few factors that contribute to the majority of the outcome. It’s the basis of achieving more with less.

So, what is the 80/20 Principle?

Imagine you are the CEO of a company and you have a salesforce. In a world where everything is equal, you will assume that everyone contributes to your sales proportionately — i.e., 20% of the employees contribute to 20% of the sales, 50% contribute to 50% of the sales, and 80% of the employees contribute to 80% of the sales. But what if instead of a 1-1 relationship, you find out that 80% of your sales are actually contributed by 20% of your staff?

What the 80-20 Principle is About

This is what the 80/20 rule is about — 80% of the effects in a situation come from 20% of the causes. This phenomenon was first discovered by Vilfredo Pareto, an Italian Economist who found that 20% of the people in Italy control 80% of the wealth and land. He first observed the principle when gardening and noticing that 20% of his peapods in his garden yielded 80% of the total harvested peas.

Examples of 80/20 in Action

Here are just some of many situations where the 80/20 rule can be observed:

  • Population: 80% of the population in England (25.8 million out of 32.3 million) comes from 20% of its cities (53 out of 263 cities).
  • Resource Consumption: 70% of the world’s energy, 75% of its metals, and 85% of its timber are consumed by 20% of the world’s countries (which have far fewer than 20 percent of the world’s population).

…. and so on.

Applying 80/20 Principle in Our Life

The 80/20 rule tells us that a large proportion of effects is due to a small portion of causes. More with less.

  • 20% of causes lead to 80% of results. These are what I call the 20% high-impact-tasks. High-value because they lead to high-impact results.
  • On the other hand, 80% of causes lead to 20% of results. These are what I call the 80% low-impact-tasks.

It doesn’t have to be a literal 80-20 ratio — for example, 70% of the effects can be contributed by 15% of the causes, or 60% of effects can be contributed by 30% of the causes. The percentages of effects and causes don’t have to add up to 100% either — 80% refers to the effect while 20% refers to the cause, meaning they are not of the same denominator. It just happened that Pareto’s observation was 80-20 (rather than 70-20 or 60-10).

The point of the 80/20 rule is to know that (a) the relationship between cause and effect is often not 1:1, and (b) some causes have more weight than others.

 

Article by celes

 

Put Down that Baggage you’ve been Carrying all these Years…

Why do we make life so difficult when it doesn’t have to be that way? Every morning, we activate a switch when we open our eyes. We choose—consciously or unconsciously—how we want to live the day. We can choose the path of love, full of joy, curiosity, and freedom, or we can choose the path driven by fear, littered by worry, disappointment, and suffering. The choice is ours.

But, for many, something goes awry. We veer off course, finding ourselves distracted, seduced, or sabotaged by internal conversations that undermine our best selves. Also, we develop attachments to ideas, people, ideals, and behaviors that weigh us down. They keep us from moving forward and inhibit our ability to live a full life.

Think of these attachments as baggage we carry around with us every day. Each piece of baggage represents an attachment in our lives. We carry them in our heads, stuff them in our pockets, and drag them behind us in big sacks. They trip us up, drag us down, and wear us out.

Put Down that Baggage you’ve been Carrying all these Years…

Just let it go!

 

 

Let it go!

 

 

Go!

Basically, by letting go of our baggage – confronting our attachments and aspiring to new ideals – we can ditch our baggage and become the best versions of ourselves.

 

Just…

Gone.

Have a wonderful life!

Source:  http://www.psychologytoday.com

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New Year New You

 

Make any resolutions?

Are you one to make a New Year’s Resolution for yourself? Whether you are or not, it can be a personal goal that you can set. Setting a personal goal for yourself can be what drives you to be a better you. You can set a goal for yourself any day, not just on the first of the new year.

It does not have to just be about getting your body in shape. You can also focus on getting your mind in shape. Getting your mood in shape (especially with those Winter Blues).  Getting your education/grades in shape. So, it really can be a New Year, New You.

 

Are You Ready for some new knowledge?

 

Are you ready to succeed?

Don’t stop learning because life never stops teaching.

Have a look at my webpage.  There are probably articles there that could help you figure out some things.  Life is hard enough without someone to count on to help.

New year, new you? Got it.  But no need until the new year.  Do it now!

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How To Achieve More with Less:

Use The 80/20 Principle

The 80/20 is also known as “The Pareto Principle” or “The Law of the Vital Few” — referring to the vital few factors that contribute to the majority of the outcome.

So, what is the 80/20 Principle?

Imagine you are the CEO of a company and you have a salesforce. In a world where everything is equal, you will assume that everyone contributes to your sales proportionately — i.e., 20% of the employees contribute to 20% of the sales, 50% contribute to 50% of the sales, and 80% of the employees contribute to 80% of the sales. But what if instead of a 1-1 relationship, you find out that 80% of your sales are actually contributed by 20% of your staff?

What the 80-20 Principle is About

This is what the 80/20 rule is about — 80% of the effects in a situation come from 20% of the causes. This phenomenon was first discovered by Vilfredo Pareto, an Italian Economist who found that 20% of the people in Italy control 80% of the wealth and land. He first observed the principle when gardening and noticing that 20% of his peapods in his garden yielded 80% of the total harvested peas.

Examples of 80/20 in Action

Here are just some of many situations where the 80/20 rule can be observed:

  • Population: 80% of the population in England (25.8 million out of 32.3 million) comes from 20% of its cities (53 out of 263 cities).
  • Resource Consumption: 70% of the world’s energy, 75% of its metals, and 85% of its timber are consumed by 20% of the world’s countries (which have far fewer than 20 percent of the world’s population).

…. and so on.

Applying 80/20 Principle in Our Life

The 80/20 rule tells us that a large proportion of effects is due to a small portion of causes.

  • 20% of causes lead to 80% of results. These are what I call the 20% high-impact-tasks. High-value because they lead to high-impact results.
  • On the other hand, 80% of causes lead to 20% of results. These are what I call the 80% low-impact-tasks.

It doesn’t have to be a literal 80-20 ratio — for example, 70% of the effects can be contributed by 15% of the causes, or 60% of effects can be contributed by 30% of the causes. The percentages of effects and causes don’t have to add up to 100% either — 80% refers to the effect while 20% refers to the cause, meaning they are not of the same denominator. It just happened that Pareto’s observation was 80-20 (rather than 70-20 or 60-10).

The point of the 80/20 rule is to know that (a) the relationship between cause and effect is often not 1:1, and (b) some causes have more weight than others.

Article by celes

Bucket List: 101 Things To Do Before You Die

What’s a Bucket List?

If you have never heard of the term “bucket list”, it is a list of all the goals you want to achieve, dreams you want to fulfill, and life experiences you wish to experience before you die.

Why Create a Bucket List?

If you don’t live your days by goals and plans, chances are that you spend most of your time caught in a flurry of day-to-day activities. Ever felt that your days are passing you by without any tangible output? What did you accomplish in the past month? What are your goals for the next three months? Look at the things that you have been doing and the things that you’re planning to do next — do they mean anything to you if you are to die today? Having a bucket list reminds you of what’s really important to you so that you can act on them.

Even if you live by goals or to-do lists, they are probably framed within a social context, e.g. performance, career, health. A bucket list opens up the context for your life. It’s a list to identify everything you’ve ever wanted to do, whether it’s big or small, purposeful or random.

It’s just like planning all the highlights for YOUR life. 😀 Even though I already set goals by default, I still found many new things to do while writing on my own list. It was an incredibly insightful exercise. What’s more, coming up with my list gave me new-found enthusiasm knowing what I have planned ahead for my life!

The objective of creating this list isn’t to create some fear-based mentality toward death. I don’t see our existence to be limited to our physical years on Earth — our physical lifespan is but a short speck of our existence in the universe. The whole point of creating a bucket list is to maximize every moment of our existence and live our life to the fullest. It’s a reminder of all the things we want to achieve in our time on Earth so that instead of spending our time on pointless things, we direct it toward things that matter to us.

Create Your Bucket List

If you don’t have a bucket list, I highly recommend you to create one. How much will it cost? Zero. How long will it take? Probably 30 minutes to an hour; more if you get really caught up in writing it. 🙂 What do you stand to gain? Significant clarity in what you want from life. It’s an invaluable exchange. 🙂

If you already have a bucket list, take this opportunity to review it. See if there are new items you want to add on. If so, add them in. Check if all the items listed are still relevant. If not, remove them.

Now, take out your pen and paper or open up a text document. Start writing down what comes to mind as you read these questions:

  • What if you were to die tomorrow? What would you wish you could do before you die?
  • What would you do if you had unlimited time, money and resources?
  • What have you always wanted to do but have not done yet?
  • Any countries, places or locations you want to visit?
  • What are your biggest goals and dreams?
  • What do you want to see in person?
  • What achievements do you want to have?
  • What experiences do you want to have/feel?
  • Any special moments you want to witness?
  • What activities or skills do you want to learn or try out?
  • What are the most important things you can ever do?
  • What would you like to say/do together with other people? People you love? Family? Friends?
  • Any specific individuals (celebrities, famous people, world leaders) you want to meet in person?
  • What do you want to achieve in the different areas of your life: Social, Love, Family, Career, Finance, Health (your weight, fitness level), Spiritual?
  • What do you need to do to live a life of greatest meaning as defined by you?

Come up with as many items as you can. The items should be things you have not done yet. Don’t stop until you have at least 101 things! If you find yourself stuck, chances are you are mentally limiting yourself. Release those shackles — your bucket list is meant to be a list of everything you want to achieve, do, see, feel and experience in your life. Check out the next section for added inspiration.

101 Things To Do Before You Die

Here are 101 items to consider for your bucket list. 🙂 Look through the list — is there anything that resonates with you? ​Note that the list below is a sample list of things you can put for your own list. Not all of them will work for you, and you shouldn’t do them for the sake of it. Take the items that resonate with you and use them for your own list! For your convenience, I’ve included useful resources (hand-picked by me) to aid you in your bucket list quest.

1. Travel all around the world

2. Learn a new language

3. Try a profession in a different field

4. Achieve your ideal weight

5. Run a marathon

6. Take part in a triathlon

7. Take up a new sport

8. Go scuba diving / snorkeling and experience marine life up close

9. Go skiing

10. Trek the Inca Trail

Article by Ceres. Click the link for more ideas.

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