One of the most subtle, yet powerful ways to be a force for good is by lending your calming, grounded presence to those who are struggling. Just the simple act of sitting with someone and being there for them during their darkest time can make all the difference.
Giving your undivided attention and listening as they share whatever is weighing on their heart can help them to feel understood and supported. While it is natural to want to be helpful and offer advice, most of the time, people just want to know that they are heard and understood. One of the loneliest feelings in the world is to feel unheard and misunderstood.
But can you sit and listen to someone without trying to offer up a solution?
As a problem solver myself, I can see how offering solutions to problems can be seen as loving. You want to help the people you care about. Most people aren’t looking for someone else to have the answers. They just want to be heard and understood. And when you think about it, if the person doesn’t feel heard or understood, coming in with the calvary with a solution to their problem can feel a bit…dismissive – even though you don’t mean it that way.
When someone you care about is hurting, strive to make them feel less alone than to “fix” their feelings. Meet them where they are and just be there for them. Doing so goes a lot further than you think.
Source: mindsetmadebetter.com©
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