Category: Conversation Starters

Blue Eyes Aren’t Random—Research Traces Them Back to One Prehistoric Human.

Unlike many genetic traits that evolve multiple times independently, this one seems to trace back to a single ancestor. Somewhere in prehistoric Eurasia, a child was born with eyes unlike any seen before. That child survived, had descendants, and unknowingly began a global lineage.

Why Blue? The Science Behind the Shade

Interestingly, blue eyes don’t actually contain blue pigment. The color results from the way light scatters in the iris when melanin levels are low — a phenomenon similar to why the sky appears blue. Less pigment allows shorter wavelengths of light to reflect outward, creating the blue appearance.

Because the mutation is relatively recent in evolutionary terms, there hasn’t been enough time for major genetic reshuffling around it. That’s why scientists can still detect its original signature thousands of years later.

As populations migrated, mixed, and formed new societies, the trait spread — particularly throughout Europe and parts of Western Asia. Environmental factors, genetic drift, and social selection may have influenced how common it became, but its origin remains singular.

More Than a Color

Eye color often feels personal. We read emotion, trust, and identity in someone’s gaze. Artists and poets have long attached symbolism to blue eyes — mystery, calm, depth. But behind that symbolism lies a quiet biological story.

A mutation.

A survival.

A lineage that continues today.

What appears to be a simple cosmetic difference is actually a genetic echo from thousands of years ago.

Conclusion

The story of blue eyes is a reminder that humanity is more interconnected than we tend to realize. Beneath languages, borders, and cultures, our DNA carries shared chapters of an ancient narrative. The blue-eyed trait — born from a single mutation in one individual long ago — now links millions of people across the world.

In the end, when we look into someone’s blue eyes, we’re not just seeing a color. We’re witnessing a fragment of human history — a subtle, living connection to an ancestor whose legacy still shines through generations.

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Right-brain vs. left-brain thinking is often discussed in psychology. Everybody uses both thinking types to some degree, but nearly everyone tends to have one or the other as a primary thinking style.

The left brain uses logic, structure, and data, while the right brain favors creative, intuitive, and broader thinking.

There is no need for an assessment, as most people can determine their most used thinking style by simply responding honestly to one question.

1. The Question: How Do You Start a Task?

When you have a job to do, do you

1. think it through with a detailed plan of various steps to follow, or
2. are you someone who jumps right into it and figures it out as you go?

If you follow lists, organized structure, and clear order, then you are most likely leaning toward the left side of your brain.

If you use intuition, create on the fly, and adjust your decisions as you progress, you have a tendency to favor the right side of the brain. This starting point shows what your mind prefers to do with uncertainty, pressure, and creativity in daily life.

2. If You Plan First, You May Be Left-Brain Oriented

Having structure feels safer to left-brain thinkers. Planning reduces anxiety and clarifies things. You also prefer logic, systems, and predictable results.

Schedules and routines, as well as clear rules, may appeal to you; problem-solving for you feels good when you use steps to find a solution.

You usually process your emotions internally or through logical thinking, so you probably are creative, but you place more trust in an ordered way of thinking than you do in gut feelings.

3. If You Dive in First, You May Be Right-Brain Oriented

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Right-brained people are intuitive and rely on momentum for their ideas. They are hands-on learners. When there are no rules, it’s easier to create because there is more space for creativity.

Right-brained people process their emotions more powerfully than left-brained people do, and they usually go with their gut instincts. For right-brained thinkers, the act of creating is more exciting than creating a plan to create something.

There is no lack of discipline in these individuals; instead, they receive inspiration first and use logic afterwards to achieve success.

4. How You Handle Problems Reveals More

Analytical (left-brain) thinkers approach problems sequentially, searching for the causes of the problem, the patterns, and the solutions they would provide.

Imaginative (right-brain) thinkers approach problems intuitively (emotionally and/or visually), imagining the results or possibilities.

The left-brain thinker places greater emphasis on physically presenting accurate information, while the right-brain thinker values insightful information more.

There is no better way; however, they will have different priorities on how they will accomplish the same task. Your usual reactions to problems will be indicative of the side you trust most when you are under pressure.

5. Your Communication Style Is a Clue

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Left-brain thinkers communicate directly with facts and clarity. Right-brain thinkers communicate through emotional, metaphorical, and visual methods, using storytelling, images, and tone.

This can be seen in the way you explain a concept or resolve a conflict.

Your method of communication is influenced by the organization of thoughts in your brain and may affect how others perceive your level of intelligence and personality traits.

6. How You Make Decisions Says A Lot

When making a decision, left-brained thinkers rely on facts, logic, and measurable results, whereas right-brained thinkers base their decisions on feeling, intuition, or gut instinct.

Neither way is inherently better than the other, but it shows how someone balances those three elements (risk, emotion, and control) in daily living.

7. Stress Brings Out Your Dominant Side

When stressed, you will see that whether you are a left-brain thinker or a right-brain thinker, the way that you think naturally under pressure is what you are going to fall back on.

If you are a left-brain thinker, you are likely to be more rigid and controlling under stress, whereas if you are a right-brain thinker, you are likely to become more emotional and all over the place.

Because of this, if you try to understand how you react when you are under stress, it helps to notice which side of your brain is dominant when you become uncomfortable.

8. Most People Are A Blend, With A Dominant Side

Most of us are not uniquely right- or left-brained but a combination of both sides, with one side being dominant; however, through life experiences, professions, and stressors, the balance can change over time.

The most important thing is to be aware of oneself instead of just putting labels on oneself. When you know where you naturally gravitate, it allows you to work with your brain versus working against it.

Being aware of your thought processes enhances your decision-making ability, your creativity, and how you accept who you are.

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Mental Exercises to Keep Your Brain Sharp – TUTORING YOU

 

When you think of Christmas, who do you think of? Father Christmas, Santa Claus or Jesus Christ?

Christmas may be celebrated worldwide, but every country adds its own twist — sometimes sweet, sometimes surprising, and sometimes wonderfully strange. This massive list of Christmas Around the World trivia questions takes you on a festive tour across continents, cultures, and centuries. It’s packed with fun facts, global traditions, unusual customs, and delightful surprises that turn any group into instant holiday explorers.

Questions for yourself, or a partner.

 

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Related:  Santa Claus Questions – TUTORING YOU

 

Let’s start with some killer conversation openers. These are great for simply opening a conversation with someone new or someone you haven’t seen in a while. And they’re far more interesting than the standard “Where are you from?” and “what do you do?” those are so boring. Try these instead.

1. Working on anything exciting recently? This is a great one because it invites the other person to tell you something that they want to share. If they want to tell you about their favorite hobby, they can. If they want to tell you about their job, they can. And it’s a great way to know what’s at the top of someone’s mind.
2. What was the highlight of your day so far? This is my alternative to “How are you?” Asking someone the best part of their day is a great way to bring up positive vibes, as opposed to just giving you a boring update.
3. What’s your story? This is an interesting conversation starter because it invites someone to tell you a story about them, and you never know what exciting thing they might tell you.
4. What personal passion project are you working on right now? This is one of my favorites. You never know what secret side hustle someone has. I love asking this one to people I already know in one context, like work, but would love to know more about them personally.
5. How do you know the host? This one can be modified to any kind of event. If you are at a party, hopefully you both have the host in common. If you are at a networking or work event, you can modify it to “How long have you been a part of this organization?”
6. What was the highlight of your day today? This is a nice alternative to asking “how are you?” and it gets more interesting answers.
7. What was the highlight of your week? This is a great one to ask instead of the standard question “How are you?” or “How’s it going?” It helps people share a positive story instead of just giving an autopilot answer of “Fine” or “Good.”
8. Have you been to an event like this before? This one can be modified for most types of events, from birthday parties (did you come last year?) to networking events (do you come every month?).
9. What was the high-point and low-point of your day so far? This one is great if you have a talker. If you are speaking with an extrovert, asking questions for them to ruminate and expand on will tickle their fancy. Extroverts love this question.
10. Has this been a busy time for you? I don’t always like to ask people about being busy, but I use this conversation starter if someone seems distracted or not engaged. Sometimes acknowledging their busy-ness can hook them in.
11.  How’s that drink / appetizer / artwork / game? One of my favorite context cues is asking about whatever someone is holding or doing. Ask them about their wine. Ask them if they like the artwork they are looking at. Ask them if the food is good. These are very easy openers.
12. Having fun? A really easy cold approach opener is to look for someone who is by themself but looks like they are having an okay time. It’s easy to sit next to someone at a table, or stand next to someone at the bar and simply ask, “Having a good time?” or “Enjoying yourself?” It’s a nicer opener than just “How are you?”

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Small talk often gets a bad rap. It can feel awkward, superficial and pointless at times — if you’re doing it wrong.

But it’s one of the most powerful tools in your arsenal to build relationships, exude a strong presence and even lift your mood. 

The problem with most small talk is that it’s happening on autopilot, which means that people are asking questions they can already predict the answers to, such as: 

• “How are you?” 
• “How’s the weather?”  
• “How was your weekend?”

When you ask autopilot questions, you can almost guarantee you’ll get autopilot responses: 

• “I’m good, thanks. How about you?”
• “It’s so cold!”
• “My weekend was good, thanks. How about yours?”

Want the antidote to autopilot small talk? Use conversational threading.

What is conversational threading?

Conversational threading is a technique that leads to more meaningful interactions by creating or pulling on “threads” — or compelling little tidbits that encourage more flowing and interesting conversation. 

It can help you have better conversations in your personal and professional life, whether you’re in a job interview, at a networking event, in a team meeting, at a party, or in line at a coffee shop.

Here’s how to use it: 

Offer a few threads people can pull on

Let’s say you’re asked the autopilot question “How was your weekend?” Instead of giving a rote answer, you might say: “My weekend was great! I went hiking and celebrated my niece’s birthday.” You’ve now offered two threads: They can ask about your hike or your niece. 

Here are a few more examples to help you improve your replies to common small talk prompts:

Question: “What brings you to [place/event]?”

Autopilot answer: “I’m here for work.”

Better answer: “I’m here hoping to learn more about [X topic] to help my team achieve [Y goal]. I’m excited to meet others looking to do similar things. How about yourself?”

Question: “How are you?”

Autopilot answer: “I’m good. Busy as usual, you know how it is!”

Better answer: “I’m good! Work has been keeping me on my toes, but I just started a new project that I’m really excited about. How about you?”

Question: “How’s it going?” 

Autopilot answer: “Things are good on my end.”

Better answer: “I’ve been focused on wrapping up [X project], and I’m excited to share it at the all-hands next week. I’d love to hear your thoughts after!”

Pull on other people’s threads

Active listening is key if you want to identify threads to pull on. For example, if you ask someone where they’re from and they respond with “San Francisco,” our natural inclination is to then share where we are from, and then the conversation might fall flat. 

Instead, pull on that thread of information you’ve been given and ask a follow up question like, “What’s your favorite part about living there?” 

You can also share your own experiences with San Francisco to keep the conversation going. When you share more about yourself, it can often prompt the other person to be more open to sharing as well.

If you’re stuck on how to continue a conversation because the other person isn’t giving you any threads to pull on, make an observation about something you see. This works particularly well in situations like video calls, where you can comment on or ask about something in that person’s background, like a piece of art or photo (or the virtual background they’ve selected). 

Ask better questions to prompt threads

You can encourage more engaging conversation by tweaking your small talk questions to better facilitate conversational threading. For example: 

Common question: “How are you?”

Better question: “What are you excited to be working on?”

Common question: “How was your weekend?

Better question: “What was the highlight of your weekend?”

Common question: “What brought you to this event?”

Better question: “What’s been your favorite takeaway so far?”

Having a few go-to questions in your back pocket can be especially helpful if you’re still practicing this technique.

Use positive language

Tweaking your small talk questions and responses to use more positive language — words like “excited,” “highlight” and “favorite” — primes you and the other person to think about your conversation more positively. 

Try using positive words as you provide and pull-on threads next time you talk to someone. I’m excited for you to have deeper, more interesting conversations from here on out.

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Related:  7 Ways to Start a Conversation that Leads Where You Want It to – TUTORING YOU

Winter break is the perfect time to relax, explore new hobbies, spend quality time with family, and recharge for the year ahead. So, what will you do this period?

Have you tried exercise?  I mean like exercising your vocal cords?  I mean something you my dread, like small talking.   A student, especially an ESL student, is sometimes reluctant to do try this outside of a classroom. I get that.  However, with practice comes confidence.

What to talk about can be a roadblock if you are not prepared.  Not a big deal.  Check out the starters below to get some ideas and prepare appropriate questions to ask another person. It’s practice to become comfortable speaking English. More practice equals more confidence. And have some fun doing it!

A conversation starter.

 

Handle awkward date silences, end a conversation with a stranger – plus chat to your children, your parents and your boss. Our panel shares their secrets.

 

When you walk into a room

Most of us find the prospect of walking into a room full of strangers daunting. Instead of thinking, “Who will I have to talk to tonight?” say to yourself, “I wonder who I’m going to get to meet tonight.”

There’s a phrase I like to use: “The roof is an introduction”, which means that if you’re in the same place, you always have something in common. Remember that most people in any room feel uncomfortable. If we can be aware of that, and think, “What can I do to make other people feel comfortable with me?” That’s not just a great strategy for socializing, it’s a kindness.

Tips

Ask people how they know the host, or how they got there, or what they think of the food (just about everyone likes talking about food).
Watch out for conversation-killers, especially one-upmanship. If someone says they just lost 10lb, don’t tell them how you lost 20.
Borrow stories. If you don’t have children but you’re talking to a new parent, can you share an anecdote that a friend has told you?

How to talk to… your date

Everyone gets nervous about dates, and everybody is worried that the other person won’t like them. There’s an assumption that you are on the back foot, and the other person holds all the power. One of the best ways of dealing with that is to focus on what you want. Ask yourself, “Is this person a good fit for me?” rather than the other way round. It helps to lessen the fear of rejection.

Pay attention to what people talk about. If your date is sharing a lot of negative information – talking about their acrimonious divorce, say – it might be their way of expressing fear of the present dating situation. The same goes for what you disclose. It’s nice to show a certain openness, or vulnerability, but not to be needy. So, talking about a work conundrum could be good, but discussing therapy on a first date is probably a bad idea.

A lot of people are anxious about silences: there’s a fear about what’s going on in the other person’s head. But silences can offer an opportunity. See how the other person reacts. For example, you might say, “I’m feeling a bit nervous.” Does your date help you out and respond positively, or not? It’s another way of judging, “Am I having a good time?” And that’s really what it’s all about.

Tips
Pay attention to the negative information your date shares with you. It could be a sign that they’re not ready for a relationship.
Try not to focus on “Does this person like me?”; instead, ask yourself, “Do I like them?”
Think of your date as a team-building exercise: you’re both gathering information to work out whether you’ll fit well together.

How to talk to… your boss

Most people, whether they’re the boss or the employee, want more contact. Employees often feel out of the loop, particularly in times of change, but they can be passive about giving feedback to their managers.

There’s a lot more interest now in how to “manage up”, and a lot of confusion about what that really means. It comes down to being able to put yourself in your boss’s shoes. What’s the best time to speak to your boss about important issues? How do they like to receive information? Does your manager have his or her own manager to think about? It’s about empathy.

If you want to negotiate for a pay rise or promotion, don’t spring it on your boss. If it comes as a shock, you’ve already set up a combative situation. The adversarial method is rarely effective; I know a lot of bosses who say that when someone threatens to leave if they don’t get what they want, they call them out on it. Keep it civil and remember your boss might need to refer that decision to their boss, so make your business case as strong as possible. Be clear what both your arguments and the counterarguments are.

There’s an overreliance on email in most workplaces; I’d always question whether it’s the best way to put your point across, particularly if you need to deal with something problematic. It’s so easy to misconstrue what someone says and turn a straightforward issue into a conflict. And avoid copying people in halfway through an email discussion, even if you want to bolster your argument. It can be a very passive-aggressive way of communicating.

How much should you share with your boss about your life outside work? It depends on your workplace culture, but don’t presume that just because your boss has a relaxed management style, they’ll be less professional. As a good rule of thumb, avoid being too candid. Your boss may be friendly, but that doesn’t mean they’re your friend.

Tips
Always question whether you should send an email or say it in person. And avoid passive-aggressive copying in.
Try to think from your manager’s perspective: how does what you need to say affect them?
Remember that your boss may not be the one making the final decision, so you might need to convince them to convince others.

How to talk to… your parents

When you hit adolescence, the drive to belong to your peer group rather than your family kicks in. So by the time you’re a young adult, you may have spent a lot of time trying to get emotional distance from your parents. Mother-and-daughter relationships, in particular, suffer a lot, with the mother pushing for information and feeling marginalized. Whether you’re a grownup daughter or son, remember you will probably need to initiate the conversation. Your parents have become cautious; they don’t want to interfere with your independence. The best way to re-establish a relationship is to give them regular updates on everyday details of your life.

Your relationship with your parents is not a friendship – or, rather, it’s not just a friendship. It’s also a nurturing relationship. It’s becoming more common for children to feel in competition with their parents. Parents are more likely now to be as active at work and in life, and many adults today can expect to be poorer than their parents. All you can do is try to be tactful on both sides, and don’t ask too many questions that are going to make you feel resentful: “So when’s your next holiday, Mum?”

As parents get older, one of the most commonly expressed emotions from their children is irritation – irritation that their conversations seem more rambling, or even confused. That irritation is a cover-up for fear. No child wants to lose the relationship they had with their parents. And for the parents, who are getting towards the end of their lives, there’s an overwhelming need to feel as if they have lived for a reason, to make sense of the story of their life. It can be very therapeutic to make time for those stories, to share them with each other. Good conversations are really about good listening.

Tips
Conversations with parents tend to be one-sided. It’s easier to share details from your life than hear about a lot of intimate details from theirs.
Envy of parents is increasingly common, but remember it’s not their fault, and try not to let it cloud your relationship.
Your position in your family (whether you’re the eldest or youngest child) can affect the kind of conversations you have with your parents, so don’t assume your siblings will have the same experiences as you.

How to talk to… children and teenagers

Children often don’t have the words to say what they’re feeling, and they don’t always understand what we’re looking for when we ask them questions. So if you ask, “How was your day?” and you’re met with a grunt or a shrug, it’s not because your child is trying to hide something from you. It’s because they don’t see why you could possibly want to know, or which part of their day you’re interested in. It can help to make your questions more specific: “What was the best thing about your day? What was the hardest thing?” And, of course, it helps if you are really listening. We often don’t give children our full attention.

Try to meet your child’s emotions, rather than telling them how to feel. If your child comes home saying, “I hate everyone in my class”, your first reaction might be, “That’s not a nice thing to say”, or, “Things can’t be that bad.” Try to pay attention to the feeling rather than the content. Help them find other words to draw out their emotions – “It sounds like you had a really bad day” – so they can talk about it in a different way.

With younger children, visual cues and games can be a helpful way of piecing things together. If you’re trying to find out who they play with at school, you might get them to draw a picture of their friends, say. Repeating back to a younger child what they have said makes them feel heard. And if you’re talking about difficult topics, break them down into manageable chunks.

Teenagers often respond better if you’re doing something alongside a conversation, so they don’t have to give you a lot of eye contact, even if it’s just washing up or talking when you’re in the car. Using a bit of humor can help to defuse the tension, and watching films with older kids can be a good way to broach difficult subjects.

Tips
Use visual exercises with younger children to help them explain what’s going on.
Respect the importance of what they’re talking about; avoid saying, “It’s just a silly worry.”
Model good ways of communicating with other adults. Let children see you argue and make up.

How to talk to… your doctor

The key thing is that you know why you’re there. Increasingly, people have more than one thing they want to mention at an appointment. Get the most important thing out at the beginning. Men are especially bad at this, as they’re scared. But it really doesn’t help if you get to the end of your 10 minutes, then say, “Oh, by the way, every time I mow the lawn, I get this pain in my chest that goes right up to my jaw – that’s nothing to worry about, is it?” Actually, it could mean you’ve got angina.

I find, increasingly, that there’s a generational difference in how people speak to doctors. Younger people are more likely to say, “I just feel shit.” Try to be descriptive. If you have a pain, is it dull or sharp? Does it burn or throb? If you have new symptoms, make sure you mention them. The timeline is really important: have you been getting pains for a few days, or weeks, or at certain times of day? Photos help, especially if symptoms have changed.

For doctors, half the game is trying to figure out, “Why is this person really here?” Do they want medication, or tests? Do they want to be signed off work? If you are secretly worried that you have a much more serious illness, then mention it (we know that everyone looks up their symptoms on the internet). Your doctor won’t mind if you say, “I know I’m being stupid, but I’m worried this is a brain tumour.” We’d rather discuss that than waste time wondering what it is you’re not saying. Just be honest. The whole consultation is really about the connection between two individuals and, in an ideal world, it should be based on mutual respect and trust.

We live in a convenience culture, but medicine doesn’t work like that. People often say, “It would be great if I could just email my GP.” But if you can’t examine someone, you don’t have an accurate picture. We can’t always refer you immediately for the complicated tests you’ve seen on TV. And we can’t always solve everything in a 10-minute appointment.

Tips
Start with the thing you’re most worried about. Don’t make your doctor guess.
Be as detailed and descriptive as you can when explaining your symptoms.
Have an awareness that you’re talking to a human. We try to leave the emotions of the last appointment behind us, but it’s not always easy.

Well, there are your tips from our friends at the Guardian.

Oh, one more:

The number one question people ask me is, “How do I exit a conversation?” And it’s a good point: you’re not there to monopolize one person all night long. If the other person is getting a little squirmy, they’re ready to move on. Interrupt yourself, not them: “It’s been so nice talking to you. I so enjoyed talking about…” and there you can let them know you’ve been listening to what they’re saying. Then don’t just turn your back on them – it’s too abrupt. Instead, walk a quarter-length of the room away to another group or, better still, to someone standing alone.

Remember, a conversation will never begin until one person starts it.  Be that one person. Have fun!

No worries. Check out these conversation starter tips, and you will be chatting like a pro.

These questions will start some fascinating conversations. Listen fully for the response, then have at it. Remember, great conversations won’t start until you do.

The “36 Questions” made a splash years ago after the concept appeared in a New York Times “Modern Love” column. Readers loved the idea that these 36 questions could make couples fall in love. It was the latest aphrodisiac, the social-science Cupid wand. It was magic.

Here are the original questions, in order:

1. Given the choice of anyone in the world, who would you want as a dinner guest?

2. Would you like to be famous? In what way?

3. Before making a phone call, do you ever rehearse what you’re going to say? Why?

4. What would constitute a perfect day for you?

5. When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?

6. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you choose?

7. Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?

8. Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.

9. For what in your life do you feel most grateful?

10. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?

11. Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.

12. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained one quality or ability, what would it be?

13. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know?

14. Is there something that you’ve dreamt of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?

15. What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?

16. What do you value most in a friendship?

17. What is your most treasured memory?

18. What is your most terrible memory?

19. If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?

20. What does friendship mean to you?

21. What roles do love and affection play in your life?

22. Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.

23. How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s?

24. How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?

25. Make three true “we” statements each. For instance, “we are both in this room feeling…”

26. Complete this sentence “I wish I had someone with whom I could share…”

27. If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know.

28. Tell your partner what you like about them. Be honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you’ve just met.

29. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.

30. When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?

31. Tell your partner something that you like about them already.

32. What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?

33. If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?

34. Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?

35. Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?

36. Share a personal problem and ask your partner’s advice on how he or she might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.

Source: psychologytoday.com

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