When You Feel your Anger long Enough

While anger signals mistreatment and injustice, sitting with it allows you to process its root cause. Also, it can potentially lead to healing by acknowledging loss or unmet needs, rather than just reacting to the anger itself.  However, prolonged anger can also manifest as physical issues like headaches or high blood pressure. 

Surprisingly, when you feel anger long enough, it often serves as a gateway to deeper, underlying emotions like grief, sadness, fear, or disappointment.

Here is what C. S. Lewis had to say about anger:

Perhaps your reactivity and swiftness to become angry is actually a reaction to grief. That the anger is trying to tell you to address something in you that is unresolved.

Grief that is not acknowledged or is suppressed often becomes anger. Basically, while you are suppressing your grief your brain and body feels abandoned and ignored. Your brain builds narratives that are not correct and develops assumptions about things. This creates a conflict in your mind and often results in anger.

GIVING GRIEF ITS IDENTITY

While not everyone finds meaning in loss (and it cannot be forced). However, many bereaved people, over time, find that their loss has altered their values, priorities, or commitments in ways that become part of a transformed identity rather than purely subtracted from it.

Grief changes us. Identity reconstruction after significant loss is not a return to who we were — it is the emergence of a self that has been fundamentally altered by love and by loss.

Related:  https://tutoringyou.org/lose-the-anger-find-better-health/