Money alone isn’t enough to make you happy.
But helping other people can give you long-lasting joy and the feeling of true wealth, according to life coach and self-made millionaire Tony Robbins.
“Lots of people get a billion dollars and they’re not wealthy, because wealth is emotion, it’s psychology, it’s spirit, it’s soul,” Robbins tells CNBC Make It.
The mistakes
One of the “biggest mistakes” that people make, Robbins adds, is to obsess only over making money. Instead, people should insist on improving quality of life for themselves and the people they care about.
“You think, ‘I’ve got to make this money so my family will stay together, or I’ve got to make this money so there’s enough food…” Robbins adds that this way of thinking is often described as a scarcity mentality. Whereas people believe that there isn’t enough money to go around, so they obsess over the goal of clinging to money and objects. All the while, ignoring other sources of happiness like personal growth and relationships.
“Really, quality of life comes by finding a way to add more value to other people’s lives,” per Robbins.
The research
Robbins notes that there is research that explores “what stimulates and sustains well-being and happiness. Surprisingly, the thing that does the least is buying things.” In other words, obsessing over money and buying material objects might give you momentary pleasure. However, Robbins says, that good feeling typically does not stick around for long after you’ve made a purchase.
It’s the experiences
“The [material things you buy] don’t last, you get used to them,” Robbins says. “What’s more valuable, if you want happiness, is clearly being able to have experiences. When you buy experiences, they linger. A trip, the experiences, the emotions, all that.”
An experience like a vacation might produce lasting memories that provide longer-lasting happiness. However, that feeling still doesn’t compare to making other people happy, according to Robbins. “When you buy something for yourself the pleasure almost never lasts that long. If it’s something huge, it doesn’t even last that long…” he says. “Giving money away actually gives more joy than almost anything else on the planet.”
Do something for another
If you want to be happy, Robbins’ advice is to do something for another person today — you don’t even have to know the person. Just test it out, see if it’s true or if I’m full of it. Do something really unique, and don’t do it to get [something], do it because you just want to give.”
“There have been times when I’ve had nothing and I gave that money away, and the level of freedom it created in me … I can’t even describe to you verbally.”
The pleasure that you derive from helping others can be life-changing, Robbins says. “You’re going to find a giant shift, and that shift will change the way you do business, it will change the way you approach your family, it will change the way you feel about yourself, and it’ll give you the experience of wealth,” he says.
By Tom Huddleston Jr. & CNBC
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