Life after a rough marriage can feel like walking through fog. Every step seems unsure, and yet there is this pull to keep moving forward. Healing, even when done in silence, can feel strange at first, but it can also feel freeing, knowing you can take full control of your life from here on out.
These are 15 ways to heal silently after a rough marriage. Each one is simple enough to start today but deep enough to help you feel more like yourself again.
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1. Find your own space
Having a space of your own can feel like a breath of fresh air after years of compromise. Whether it is an entire apartment or just a corner in a room, claim it.
Fill it with whatever brings you even a little bit of joy. Photos, books, a comfy chair… heck, even just a clean bed. You will notice how your body kind of relaxes there, like it knows it is safe.
2. Go outside more often
Fresh air has this way of making everything feel less heavy. Stand under the sun. Feel the breeze. Listen to the world doing its thing without you having to do anything about it.
Even a short walk after work or early in the morning can change your mood completely. There is something about seeing the sky that reminds you there is still a lot out there for you.
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3. Write it down
Not everything needs to be said out loud. Sometimes the best way to get things out of your system is to write them down. Grab a notebook and just let your thoughts spill onto the page.
It does not have to make sense or sound poetic. Just the act of writing can help you see what is really going on inside. Plus, reading it back later might even surprise you.
4. Touch up on old hobbies
Remember that thing you used to do before marriage took over everything? Yeah, that. Start doing it again. Play guitar, paint, fish, cook, whatever makes you lose track of time.
The first few times might feel awkward, like you forgot how. But after a while, it starts to feel natural again. Kind of like shaking hands with an old friend.
5. Rest, rest, rest
Sounds simple, but man, it changes everything. A rough marriage can wreck your sleep, and bad sleep messes with your emotions even more.
Make your bed feel like a place you actually want to be. Think soft sheets, a decent pillow, and no glowing screens in your face. You want the kind of sleep that makes you wake up thinking, Okay, I can handle today.
6. Move your body
It’s tough to find the motivation to do anything when you’ve gone through a rough marriage. But sitting on the couch all day won’t do you any favors either, so get active and start moving your body.
Stretch in the morning. Do a few pushups during a commercial break. Take the stairs. It’s crazy how moving your body positively affects your mood and emotions. You start feeling stronger, you think about the good stuff more, and you feel like you’ve accomplished something meaningful.
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7. Spend time with animals
If you have a dog, cat, bird, or even a goldfish… spend time with them. Animals have this calming energy that humans just cannot replicate.
No pet? Visit a park where dogs play, or watch birds at a feeder. You might even find yourself laughing at how goofy they are. Animals remind you to just be present.
8. Watch something that makes you laugh
It is okay to let yourself laugh again. After all the heaviness, laughter almost feels rebellious, but in a good way.
Pick a movie, a stand-up special, or even a silly video online. Anything that gets you to crack a smile and maybe even forget for a minute how serious everything has felt.
This concludes part one of two parts. Join me Tomorrow for the part two conclusion.
Source: The Modest Man©
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