Black Friday De-Stressors

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Hello.  You made it through Thanksgiving, but now Black Friday is staring you directly in the face.  So take some time to de-stress yourself by completing some of the prompts below.  They will take your mind off of the chaos in the malls and prepare you to face  it calmly.  No need to do all of them.  Pick one or two and carry on !

 

journal prompts for anxiety and depression

After de-stressing:

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Just be careful out there !

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A Childs Worries, by Age

All kids worry.  The severity of it should concern every parent.  Here is a child therapist’s list of what “normal” worry looks like at every age level.  I’m not a therapist, but my understanding is that most kids grow out of these normal worries as they mature.

Children's fears by age according to child psychologists.

Happiness in the workplace

By Carbon60

For many years, it was believed that a job was a function performed solely for the purpose of making a living, and personal happiness was entirely dependent on social life.

However, findings from a study conducted by the University Of Warwick show that when happiness is encouraged in the workplace, productivity levels can increase by 12%. When employees enjoy their jobs, numerous positive benefits can be realized by the business: people work more efficiently, are more open to new opportunities to learn and develop and build up a strong support networks.

Here are just some of the ways in which happiness can help in the workplace:

Happiness makes you healthier

The average person spends approximately 92,000 hours of their life working. Pursuing a job you enjoy can provide you with positive energy as well as confidence and motivation, helping you to succeed and grow.

Being happy can also lower your blood pressure and strengthen your immune system, resulting in fewer sick days.

Happiness inspires creativity

Creativity is no longer something reserved for traditional artistic industries. When you’re happy at work, you feel focused and comfortable, and ideas flow more freely. Idea generation is essential to innovation.

Promoting happiness in the workplace by facilitating opportunities to generate creative ideas – and rewarding them – provides great business advantages. Positive minds strive to complete tasks effectively and efficiently, which can lead to feeling valued and fulfilled through positive reinforcement.

Happiness is contagious

Happiness spreads throughout a company. The impact of this has beneficial effects, as a positive enthusiastic workplace environment encourages confidence, the opportunity for leadership, and happy employees to perform better.

Employees who take pride in their work make positive role models for their colleagues, and happiness can inspire ambition and drive.

Being happy provides a sense of purpose

We’re all working towards our personal career goals. It is important you do not feel unmotivated and under-appreciated in the workplace, as this can have a negative impact.

At Carbon60, our mission is to ensure we change the lives of our candidates for the better, by providing fulfilment and a sense of purpose to each individual within every job we place.

Happy employees stay with same business for longer

If you’re happy and satisfied with your job, you’re more likely to stay at the company for a long time, which can bring plenty of opportunities including promotion, long-lasting relationships between you and your key stakeholders and an increase in salary.

Happy employees communicate and collaborate more effectively

Good communication is an essential skill to practise with your employees in the workplace. Not only does this help to build friendships with your colleagues, it is also a great way to express and share ideas to increase creativity, and receive helpful feedback to ensure you’re fulfilled and gaining deserved recognition for your successes.

There are numerous ways that businesses and individuals can improve working conditions to promote happiness across a company. By highlighting these benefits to HR teams, office managers or line managers, you can be a champion for the importance of happiness in your workplace.

Even the smallest improvements can have enormous positive effects in the workplace, enough to make a difference to your happiness, your colleagues’ happiness and your businesses commercial performance.

For more tips and advice, visit Carbon60Built on the heritage of publishing indispensable job seeking and career building advice for over 13 years.  Headquartered in London.

 

 

The 1 mistake to avoid if you’re hosting Thanksgiving

From the table full of tempting dishes to the quality time you get to spend with your loved ones, Thanksgiving is a great time to relax among the holiday hubbub and enjoy the good things in life. When you’re the one planning and hosting the day’s feast, though, this can be hard to do, which makes it that much more important that you don’t make the mistake of letting Thanksgiving completely pass you by.

a group of people sitting at a table eating food: Don’t make this mistake if you’re hosting Thanksgiving © iStock.com/filadendron 

If you’re hosting Thanksgiving, there are many things you can do to make sure your day isn’t too hectic. Planning ahead and making some dishes in advance will relieve some stress the day of and give you more time to focus on feeling gratitude for the blessings in your life.

It’s also a good idea to ask for help from your guests, such as allowing them to bring the scrumptious side dishes, set the table or help you clean up. Not only will more hands help everything go smoother, but it will also result in you getting things done faster so that you can relax and enjoy the occasion.

You, more than anyone, deserve to have a great Thanksgiving, and your enjoyment will help you be a better host, too.

Wisdom from Syjil Ashraf at:

https://www.msn.com/en-us/lifestyle/lifestyle-buzz/the-1-mistake-to-avoid-if-youre-hosting-thanksgiving/ar-BBX0jpX?ocid=spartanntp

The Role of a Support System

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A well developed support system is an important element in managing stress.  When you are under job stress, you may experience doubts about your competence, develop unhealthy or unproductive patterns of thoughts or behaviors, or be fearful of trying new things.  Your support system can give you the perspective and encouragement you need to reduce the amount of stress you feel and to make it through the stressful situation as quickly and easily as possible.

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From “Stress and Depression”, The Scholle Corp. handbook

The Best Relationship Advice, According to Experts

Thank you, Oprah !

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Relationship advice is a tricky thing. When it’s unsolicited, it can be annoying and sometimes even insulting (hey, we all have that friend). But when you actually seek it out, it can be hard to find what you’re really looking for—like a definitive answer on whether or not yours is healthy, and what’s truly important.

Sure, there’s your go-to advice like “don’t go to bed angry,” and “respect is important,” but we’ve all heard those before. That’s why we consulted expert therapists for the best tips they most regularly share with their patients.

Schedule dates to talk about your relationship.

“Commit to investing an hour—on an ongoing basis—to work on strengthening your relationship, troubleshooting, and making it more satisfying,” says Manhattan-based licensed clinical psychologist Joseph Cilona, Psy.D. Set up a weekly or monthly dinner where you only talk about relationship issues or goals.

Sure, it might sound drab, but getting your “homework,” or couple’s maintenance out of the way during a designated conversation is better than having it sabotage a perfectly romantic meal. Make sure to cover the things that you’re grateful for as well as use the time to figure out how to solve problems and minimize them in the future, Cilona says.

Be candid about your feelings—the good and the bad.

Regularly opening up can help bring you closer, says psychotherapist Beth Sonnenberg, L.C.S.W. “Once you think that your feelings don’t matter, won’t be heard, or are not worth sharing, you open the door to harbor negativity and resentment.” That includes positive feelings, too, she points out—especially when they’re connected with your partner. “People need to feel appreciated in any relationship,” she adds.

Figure out the recurring issues in your relationship. Then, do something about them.

Every couple has these. Maybe you repeatedly fight about your intense work schedule, or your partner’s spending habits. Whatever it is, not addressing the root of the problem means you’re going to continue to fight. That’s why Cilona recommends that you and your partner identify recurring conflicts, and decide on the solutions. It’s helpful to focus on “specific and discrete behaviors” when you do this instead of labels and interpretations, he says.

For example, instead of saying that your partner is inconsiderate when they buy a mini fridge without consulting you, it’s better to say that when they make big purchases without talking to you first, you feel like they’re trying to hide things from you. “Focusing on the issue rather than blame can allow for more effective problem solving and a team-based approach,” Cilona says.

Don’t expect your partner to be your BFF.

“We expect so much from our relationships these days. We want our partner to be a best friend, confidant, co-parent, and companion. Yet, this sets us up to be disappointed when our partner cannot fulfill our needs,” says licensed family therapist David Klow, owner of Skylight Counseling Center in Chicago and author of You Are Not Crazy: Letters from Your Therapist.

Obviously, you should expect your partner to meet some of those needs, but the best friend one is complicated. If you feel like your partner just isn’t best friend material for you, Klow recommends finding “healthy, alternative ways” to have that need met through others. “This can free up your relationship to be a source of joy rather than something that lets you down,” he says.

Before commenting, repeat their words out loud.

It’s called “mirroring.” Here’s how it works: When you’re having an important discussion with your partner, repeat back exactly what you heard them say before you comment on it. For example, something like “So what you’re saying is, you think we need more time for just us without friends or kids around?” is more effective.

“You will be endlessly surprised at how the simplest statements are heard differently by various people,” Cilona says. “This not only dramatically improves the accuracy and quality of communication by allowing for correction of misinterpretations, but also creates of strong sense of being heard and understood in each partner.”

Remember, don’t just say how you feel…show it.

Sure, it’s a good idea to say, “I love you” often, but “the act of showing matters, because we don’t say those three little words as often as we should,” says psychotherapist Barton Goldsmith, Ph.D., author of The Happy Couple.   He recommends expressing yourself by doing little things like making coffee for them in the morning, warming up their car, or stocking the freezer with their favorite flavor of Halo Top. “A random act of kindness doesn’t take much, but it can make a big difference,” he says.

Don’t be afraid to talk about money.

It’s so easy to fight about finances but talking about money—the right way—can actually help make your relationship stronger, Cilona says. “A couple that communicates their financial goals, and is willing to work together to achieve them, will likely have a deeper bond,” he adds. So, if you know you like doing your research before a big purchase but your partner is more impulsive, have that conversation before the car lease is up. Or, if you’re more interested in investing in travel than saving up for a vacation home, be up front about your preferences so you can find a common ground.

Choose to love your partner every day.

“My favorite piece of advice is the idea that every day we wake up and decide to feel affection towards our partner,” says psychotherapist Jennifer L. Silvershein, L.C.S.W. The idea behind this is simple, she says: Love is an active daily choice, and you have control over how you’re feeling. “When we wake up and the first thing we notice is a flaw in our partner, it will be hard to feel connected and in love for the rest of that day,” she says. “If we wake up and identify something we love or admire, that sets the tone.”

Fight in a productive way.

Every couple fights, but fighting in a way that moves the conversation forward and clearly explains why you’re feeling a certain way can make a difference. Silvershein recommends being specific about how your partner’s actions impact you. For example, “When you forget to text when you’ll be late, it makes me feel like you don’t care.” “When we begin shifting our language to share how our partner’s behavior makes us feel rather than just telling them what to do, I find that couples become more fluid and more aligned in their daily functioning,” she says.

Ask your friends for advice.

Sure, you and your partner have your own thing going on, and no one is perfect. But maybe you admire the way your couple-friends seem to navigate conflict or you really want to emulate the united front that your parents have always had. Whatever it is, talk to these people about how they’re able to achieve the aspects of their relationship that you admire, Cilona says. You don’t need to make a huge thing of it. Just say, “I really love how you and your partner seem to share responsibilities. How do you do that?” Then, if the advice seems good and doable for you? Talk to your partner about it.

 

https://www.oprahmag.com/life/relationships-love/a25907941/expert-relationship-advice/