Every relationship has its ups and downs. Sure, there will be blissful times when your only care in the world is what to cook for dinner. And, of course, there will be times of huge difficulty when you wonder if it’s all worthwhile. However, if the two of you experience far more lows than highs, you may be caught in the trap of a toxic relationship. If that scenario sounds all too familiar, here are 20 expert-backed red flags to look out for.
Your partner keeps tabs on you
“If your partner is wanting to know where you are all the time, there’s something not right there,” says couples therapist Geoff Lamb, co-founder of the UK Centre for Psychosexual Therapy and a member of the College of Sexual and Relationship Therapists (COSRT). If you feel like you always have to explain yourself, that’s a red flag.
You’re always excusing their behaviour
Do you find yourself making excuses for your partner’s toxic behaviour when they’re not around? “For example, ‘He’s got a bit of a temper, but I can help him with that,’” explains Lamb. “When you’re making statements like that where people around you are saying that they aren’t really good for you, it’s a danger sign to look out for.”
You can’t be your authentic self
Are you authentic around your partner? “For both partners in a relationship, you should be able to be you—whatever that means to you,” says Lamb. “If you’re feeling like you’re treading on eggshells all the time, that could be a red flag. You don’t have an obligation to be who your partner wants you to be.”
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Article by Charlotte Grainger for Expresso Communiocation