It’s your 564th date night. Your 798th long car drive. Your 1183rd time going out to dinner. In a long term relationship, or even in a newer one, sometimes you run out of things to talk about and the conversation starts to drag. What’s a modern couple to do?
When you’re tired of making the same old small talk, or you’d prefer not to sit in silence, consider using one of these conversation starters for couples. We’ve come up with a list that ranges from silly and fun to deep and thought-provoking. There are questions about relationships, your childhood, your likes and dislikes, and even your opinion on which direction the toilet paper roll should face (it clearly should be in the “under” position, by the way).
Don’t talk about the same things over and over. Don’t settle for typical questions and pat answers. With these 99 fun and unique conversation topics for couples, you’ll never run out of things to talk about! And you’ll discover a whole lot more about the person you love.
We’ve divided our couples conversation starters into three sections: the first focuses on general, fun questions for couples to answer together. These would be perfect to pull out during a long road trip or during your next dinner out.
The second section delves into romance and relationships. These topics are designed to spark discussion about the present and future of your relationship and to help you improve and grow in your love. Feel free to add your own questions as they come to you.
Finally, the third section presents deep questions for couples. These topics deal with matters of life, death, and spirituality. These can get a bit heavy, so you might want to tackle them one at a time, or reserve them for an at-home date night.
General Conversation Starters
What’s your favorite childhood memory?
Tell me about something you experienced that you have no explanation for.
Who was your superhero or idol growing up?
Do you prefer the beach or the mountains?
What’s your favorite song lyric? Why?
Who was the worst teacher you ever had?
If money were no object, what destination would you want to travel to?
What would be your dream job?
Tell me about 3 things you were scared of as a child.
What 3 things would you say you’re scared of now?
Would you rather have the power of time travel or the power to see the future?
Would you rather have the ability to fly or the ability to be invisible?
If you had just one last meal, what would you choose to eat?
Do you believe in ghosts or the supernatural?
Money, power, or good looks: which would you rather have an unlimited supply of?
Describe your perfect weekend.
Who would play you in a movie about your life?
What would a movie about your life be called?
If you could live in any era what would you choose?
What toy was your absolute favorite growing up?
What is the saddest book you’ve ever read?
Who is your celebrity crush?
Who was your celebrity crush as a teenager?
What are your pet peeves?
What is the best gift you’ve ever been given?
What is your dream home like?
What possession do you treasure most of all?
What book or film can you not imagine your life without?
What 5 people, alive or dead, would you invite to a dinner party?
What wild animal would you be most afraid to encounter?
What creature/insect would most creep you out if you found it crawling on you?
What was the first album/record/CD you ever owned?
What’s your preferred Monopoly playing piece?
If you could have one amazing talent what would it be?
What stresses you out most when traveling?
Who was your favorite family member growing up?
Tell me about your most embarrassing moment.
What celebrity do you think most resembles me? Most resembles you?
Have you ever had an enemy?
Could the Earth be flat?
What do you think is the greatest television show of all time?
Would you rather win a Nobel Prize or an Academy Award?
What one food would you banish from this earth if you could?
What’s the scariest story you’ve ever heard?
Who is the most famous person you have ever met?
What’s something you’ve done that most people wouldn’t know or guess about you?
You’re strapped in a rocket ship about to go to the moon. Are you thrilled? Or terrified?
What is the correct way for toilet paper to sit on the roll?
Relationship Conversation Starters
What’s the #1 quality you look for in a partner?
Which of our marriage vows do you think is the most important? (Or if you’re not married, which marriage vow would be most important to you?)
Is there a couple you know that you really look up to?
What’s your relationship deal breaker?
What’s your favorite memory of me?
What’s your favorite part of my body?
What’s something that we’ve never tried in bed that you would like us to try?
On what part of your body (excluding sexual organs) do you most like to be touched?
What song would you absolutely NOT want to hear played during sex?
Tell me about a mistake you made in a previous relationship, or something you regret.
What would be the best gift I could give you?
What makes you feel better when you’re sad or stressed?
Describe your perfect date with me.
What is the most romantic movie you’ve ever seen?
What’s one thing that you think would make our relationship better?
What do you think is the biggest cause of or contributing factor towards divorce?
Has our relationship had any effect on your spirituality? Has it changed since we’ve been together?
Do you have a “type,” or did you have one before we got together?
What is the worst date you’ve ever been on?
What song reminds you of me?
What do you think is the ultimate “break up” song?
What is the glue that keeps couples together?
Are you ever jealous of something about me?
What makes you feel the most loved?
If you could change something about me, what would it be?
What do you think would be the most romantic place for us to travel together?
Do you believe in soulmates?
When was the time I made you laugh the most?
Do you worry about our relationship? What would make you feel more secure?
Tell me about your first crush.
When did your parents talk to you about the birds and the bees?
Do you prefer surprises (like on anniversaries) or making plans together?
What do you wish for our relationship?
Where do you see us 5 years in the future? 10 years?
What do I do that irritates you?
What do you admire most about me?
Deep Conversation Topics for Couples
If you could make one change to the world before you die, what would they be?
What does love mean to you?
Do you believe in an afterlife?
How do you think the world came into existence?
What’s your biggest regret?
What is your greatest achievement?
Were you close to your parents growing up?
What was the most life-changing event you’ve ever experienced?
What were the 3 happiest days of your life?
What is your biggest flaw?
What do you love most about yourself?
Have you ever had a falling out with a friend? What happened?
Do you believe that pure happiness exists? Have you ever felt it?
Have you ever had your heart broken?
What song do you want played at your funeral?
Who is the black sheep in your family?
What legacy do you/would you want to leave for your kids? If no kids, younger members of your family?
Do you feel like you’re living your best life? If not, what could you be doing to change that? How could I help you?
Why do you think we’ve been put here on earth? Do you think life has a purpose?
Wow. I didn’t count them but, I trust that their all there. Go easy at first. Memorize 5 from each section and add more as you learn them. Good luck !